Get help!

By Randell Tiongson on April 9th, 2022

We all need help!

Ever wondered why Frank Sinatra’s song ‘My Way’ remains to be a favorite amongst us Pinoys? Every sing-along joint will have that song as the most requested number; not to add the thousands of magic sing owners who would sing that song over and over again. Furthermore, books and seminars about empowerment are also big favorites and motivational talks/speakers that revolve around self-actualization and self-reliance is sure to be a hit. Why? Because we just love the idea that we can achieve anything we want if we so chose too.

To some degree, I agree with that mindset but we also need to understand the limitations that we have. I am all for self-actualization and motivating oneself, but we also need to understand that we need help in many situations. Having some pride is not really a negative thing but when we become blind to achieving greater heights because of it, pride becomes a liability.

Let’s look at the issue of personal finance. There are many of us who find ourselves in a position of anxiety, if not despair. Despite all our effort and intentions, we find our situation stagnant, if not deteriorating. Time and time again, we vow that we will try harder to put our financial condition in a better state but in the end, realize that our valiant efforts did not really deliver the outcome we have hoped for.

Here’s a solution – get help! Often times, our misplaced pride prevents us from the benefit of being helped by others. We are ashamed to seek help because we sometimes don’t want to face the fact that we are in trouble; or we may not have the capacity to solve our own problems. We really can’t keep on doing the same things and expect a different result, that’s insane – and yet that is something many of us do, this myself included.

One of the best help we can get is someone who can be objective. In times when we are too close to the fire to see it, the objectivity of someone else can help us see the bigger picture. Professional financial planners are trained to look at financial situations as a whole, from the big picture approach. Well trained practitioners can help you assess your situation and offer you solutions you normally would not think of, or are too stubborn to admit.

Another big help we can get is intervention. In severe cases, we need to seek help that will result to intervention. Seeking legal help is an obvious situation but it can go beyond lawyers and financial planners. Sometimes, a temporary intervention by a well-meaning individual can do wonders until we learn how to cope up and catch up. Or, we need to be open minded enough to be rebuked by others so we can see the error of our ways.

I am a financial planner and have been a part of the financial services industry for over 3 decades. Yet, I also need help even in financial matters. I can get too absorbed in my situation that I lose perspective. Many years ago, I was blessed to seek help from a good friend and mentor, Mr. Cito Beltran. My wife and I asked for counsel in many aspects – career, business, family, faith, relationships and yes, even personal finance. At that time, the nature of my work (as a consultant and entrepreneur) resulted to some cash flow concerns and I was a bit hard-headed in addressing it. I’m a financial planner and I should be the one giving advise right? Wrong! My objectivity with regard to my own affairs can be clouded and I needed to get help from people I know who can offer it. My friend Cito, although not a trained financial planner, can see things from a wider perspective than I can with regard to my own situation. His experience in real life far outweighs whatever training I received through the years. That “intervention” resulted to me refocusing and redirecting my activities because someone helped me and I thank the Lord that there are people out there who would be willing to help. That session with Cito, although a difficult one to undergo at that time, changed the direction of my life.

By the way, no one can help you if you don’t ask for it. Try seeking help, it might be the best thing you can do for yourself and that’s what I call wisdom.

He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is kept safe. – Proverbs 28:26, NIV


One thought on “Get help!”

  • hi sir!

    I have a questions. When can you say that you “are doing the same thing and expecting a different result” from just being persistent until you will get the results that you want?

    I am doing the same marketing strategy, but it is not really making any results. But I truly believe that, the day will come that I can have the results that I wanted. Hope I am not thinking fantasy

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